About the Unfruitful Pair

This blog is to chronicle our journey to have a baby. We met at work in 2004 and soon fell in love, and in 2008 we married in October. For most of our relationship, we thought we were really good at the pull-out method, so we decided to stop pulling out after we were married. My obsession with temperature charting and peeing on opk's paid off, because in January 2011 I became pregnant. As soon as I found out, I began to cramp and this little life oozed out of me for two weeks. This wasn't suppose to happen. You were suppose to be happy you got pregnant and 9 mos later you would deliver a healthy baby. I didn't know a single person who was pregnant and had a miscarriage!

After that, I asked my gyno for a fertility workup. All of my hormone levels came back fine. My temperature charts, revealed that some months I am not ovulating and the ultrasound revealed my uterine lining was small, so my doctor gave me prescription for clomid. So I started Clomid in November of 2011.

The husband has a sperm analysis which did not look very promising. He scored a 68 on motility, and they wanted 150, so we went to a urologist. He copped a feel on my hubby and felt a varicocele, so he recommended surgery. I knew the fact I was having my hubby take hot baths could be the culprit, so I made him stop and we agreed to another sperm analysis in three months. Three months later, his sperm analysis of motility improved to 125, so we figured we were headed in the right direction.

In December of 2011, I found out I was pregnant 11 dpo. On day 13, my temperature dropped, so I called the doctor. She had me get my hcg pulled two days apart. The first day it was 24, the second one was 110, but I started bleeding. So the doctor had me take another blood test, and my hcg had dropped to 48. I lost another one.

In January of 2012, my husband decided to get the surgery to fix his varicocele. Three months later his motility has improved to 145, close to the 150 normal.

In March, I asked my gyno to refer me to a fertility specialist. So I met them in April. They took a look at all my tests and ran some more. He prescribed my femara and progesterone for the luteal phase. One of my labworks revealed I tested positive for a MTHRFR gene, but the doctor says it is the lower risk one. After I did my research, I was concerned this may be the reason for the miscarriages, so I called the doctors and I was told that the gene mutation I have poses no risk, and he also started me take 2-3mg of folic acid and a baby asprin. 

In June, we had our first IUI and it proved to be unsuccessful.  In August, we had another IUI and it was a double because the first sperm analysis was not very promising.  However, the witch (AF) showed up.  Our doctor recomments IVF and we will probably need ICSI.  Our doctor told us our success rates every month by having sex to make a child gives us a 2% chance; IUI and medication gives us a 5-10% chance of conception each month; a normal couple without any fertility challenges having sex regularly has a 20% cycle; and IVF for us will span a 50% chance.  We will have to take out a loan to cover the expenses.

We plan on having our retrieval and transfer in the first part of December.


  1. Best of luck to you and your husband! I'll be keeping up with your journey and praying that you'll have success.

  2. Just found your blog. So sorry to read about everything you have gone through this year. I look forward to reading and rooting you on for your FET in Feb! We are doing our first DE/IVF in Feb!

  3. I just saw above it sounds like you live close to me. I live in Lexington. Best of luck to you!